Can I…

This question was asked by mrBF today.

Can I go?

His friends asked him to go for some drinks with them as they have not had a boys night out for quite some time.

I was wondering, what if I said no?

BUT

How can anyone says no?

I am only his girlfriend, or friend according to the Empress, not his family members. I have no right to control his life. I cannot believe it when his friend said that he has to call his girlfriend to report.And his girlfriend actually set some “rules” for him if he was to go ahead. o.O

I believe that when 2 people get involve in a relationship, they should still maintain their own social circle and make time for their friends and family. Everyone should have control over their own lives.

I mean, can you imagine that someone else is running your life for you? You have to ask for permission to do every single little thing? How sad can one get?

I totally can understand the fact that you want your Significant Other (S.O.) to know your whereabouts so put him/her at ease. However, to ask for permission to do something and to adhere to the rules set, it is really pathetic.

The rules set by said girlfriend was:

1) Do not get drunk - acceptable

2) Do not look at girls - which guy will not look at other girls??

3) Do not send girl/s home - acceptable

4) Get home early - Hello? They are going drinking, how to et home early?

5) etc..

mrBF asked if he can look at girls. I said yes. Why not?

Look, what I told the Emperor the other day. He can go out and play for all I care. As long as he knows how that he has to come home in the end and did nothing wrong towards me. If he really do something wrong, it simply means that the guy does not really treasure the relationship and it is time to change a new partner.

I know some people may not agree with this but, it is true. How to stop him from doing what he wants? As long as his heart is with you, he will behave appropriately.

So now, I am missing mrBF like mad while he is enjoying himself.

=C

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  1. OH WELL… get used to it… =D

    Princess: Yah.. Bo bian right…

    mr nice

  2. frankly speaking i agreed wif wat u say la.. even in ur heart u dun wan him to go.. u hope that he can accompany u instead.. but u cannot say NO rite..

    well gal.. just remember that this is part and parcel of a relationship.. just give in more, expect lesser.. =) u might be happier .. i knw words are so much easy den action.. =) give him some time.. i guess he will prove to u.. he reali love u.. just that he needs some time wif his fren alone..

    u r not controling his life.. guess he just wan to let u knw thats all.. =) take it as he is respecting u.. and hope that u will be understandin.. =)

    all the best.. =)

    Princess: I understand that he needs time with his friends, that’s why I always encourage him to meet up with them. But sometimes, when he keep asking for “permission”, I just feel that I am restricting him. Anyway, thanks!

    jess

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